Bipolar with Psychosis

A Guide for navigating mental illness

By - billV

Intuition

I’m sure you’ve heard the word before, but how aware are you of your own intuition? How much do you trust your own inner voice? How often do you ignore it? Do you have any understanding of what it feels like to think a thought, compared to receiving a thought? Intuition is, in its purest form, your inner voice that guides you through your life. Some of us trust it. Others don’t. Some of us completely ignore it all together, and there are a few who don’t make a single decision without consulting their higher self.
So what exactly is intuition? Your intuition is your gut instinct and the voice in your head that says “Take two steps to the left,” when you could’ve been hurt or injured. 
So I would like to pose a question to you now that you have a taste of what intuition really is. If you seen someone upset about something, is there a way to change their mood without forcing them to tell you why they’re upset?

How to help without helping

Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes is only the first part of the equation. Once you understand their feelings, would you change them if you could? Would you take it upon yourself to heal the wound they have, or would you simply watch while someone around you was in pain?

Here’s how it works:

Your spouse comes home from a long day at work, visibly upset and appearing to be frustrated from a long stressful day. So what do you do? Do you continue to do your own thing and watch TV, or is there another option?
I use to have this happen a lot with my wife Ariella. I use to always as “What’s wrong?” Then she’d be forced to tell me all about it, and relive the painful day she had just finished. About a year ago I started to take a new approach.
One day she came home from work and was pretty upset and crying about how miserable her job was. Instead of asking her to tell me about the misery, I simply started doing things she liked to shift her focus.
The first thing she encountered was me waiting for her to come inside so I could greet her with a hug and a kiss. I had cleaned the entire house because I knew how much she likes that. When she walked in I said “Welcome home my love,” instead of the usual “How was your day.” I know how her day was. She didn’t need to think about it again. Now the only thought she had was of being home with me. There was no need to think about anything but me.

Honing your senses

The tricky part is that you can’t always get it right. It may take a lot of practice before you begin to understand what others are thinking, but I promise you, you can do it. 
Trial and error is the key here. Just remember that when you get in touch with someone else’s deepest fears or lies they tell themselves, you need to tread carefully. People don’t admit to most things if they’re too deeply buried. So when you are trying to fix a problem for someone, remember that you can’t fix anything for anyone else. You can help them find the door, but they are the ones who must walk through it. If you play your cards right, they’ll willingly walk through the door without even noticing it.
So how does one go about getting someone to open up to you and expose their deepest darkest secrets? One thing that’s required is trust. Another thing is the ability to be open enough to not judge people for what they think or say. When you can listen openly and objectively, then you’ll be on the right track. Until then, practice makes perfect. 
 

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